Create the relationship you've always wanted
“I’m uneasy about how things are with my partner, but I don’t know what to do about it. Things go along ok mostly, but something isn’t right.”
“We fight all the time it seems like, and over the smallest things. I don’t understand it, and I’m feeling worse and worse about it.”
“Our first year or two was pure bliss. Now though, that seems gone and instead we are often irritated with each other. It makes me feel terrible.”
“She doesn’t understand me. She doesn’t even try. She wants her way and that’s that.”
“He doesn’t understand me. He doesn’t seem to care, he just seems to back away from me and I’m alone, doing it all myself.”
“I wake up feeling edgy and anxious, and I feel like that a lot every day.”
“We don’t talk the way we used to. Our relationship seems stuck.”
“I think he’s/she’s cheating, but I’m not sure, and sometimes I feel like cheating too. I hate living this way.”
“One of us has cheated, and now we have no idea what to do. What about the kids, the house, our life!?! Do we have to end everything?”
It’s hard to believe, but all of these problems can be addressed and resolved and you can move into a more gratifying and powerful relationship. It can be done. I can help you do it.
“What if one or both of us isn’t sure couple’s counseling or therapy is the answer? What if we’ve never been to counseling before?”
I specialize in seeing clients who have not been in therapy before. I am here to help you get where you want to go. Just like that. No matter how simple or complex, I will help you clarify your hopes and help you realize them. Call me today for an initial consultation, free of charge. Let me help you.
Use the form below to contact me with any questions or concerns you have.
Note that relationship improvement can happen in individual therapy as well as couple therapy, if one partner will not come, for whatever reason, the other partner can benefit from some help themselves. I always urge people to seek therapy together in such situations, but sometimes that's not possible. And I work with all kinds of relationship problems: couples, family, friends, work. If it's interpersonal, and so many trying situations are interpersonal, let's meet to see if I can be of help.
Finally, I offer a form of pre-couples'counseling known as Discernment Counseling. This particular counseling protocol was developed, and is constantly refined, by Bill Doherty of the Doherty Relationship Institute in Minnesota. It is designed to help couples who are in crisis, on the brink of separation and/or divorce. The counseling helps couples make a clear decision about whether to stay in the relationship as it is, end the relationship, or commit to intensive couples' counseling for a period of 6 months. Discernment counseling is time-limited, a highly focused process of clarifying desires and goals. It is NOT couples' counseling itself, but, rather a process couples engage in to decide whether they want to commit to longer-term couples' counseling to remake their relationship.
Other Areas of Practice
Is your intimate relationship a minefield of frustration and suspicion, anger and fear? Do you yearn for a loving, gratifying relationship of mutual understanding and compassion, that makes plenty of room for growth and change? I have helped many couples find exactly that and I can help you find it too.
Of course I am here to help you with your anxiety, depression, and other internal difficulties that keep you stuck and miserable.
I can help you with major life-transitions, whatever they may be: beginning a career or ending one; career change and loss; personal change and loss and grief.
trauma therapy & EMDR
If you suffer from PTSD I can help, using both EMDR and the Trauma Resilience Model methods. These brief, powerful protocols will help you reprocess and heal both the effects of trauma and the memories themselves.
If you're a high-creative, an actor, writer, artist, musician, performer of any kind, I can help you find the energy, confidence and hope to do your work. My past work in performance helps me to understand the particular problems you face.